Hi there! I always masturbate in the shower because I suspect that I might be a squirter so I'm scared to do it outside of the bathroom. How do I know if I'm a squirter? Can I overcome this? Thank you!
Just try it after your shower with the water off! If more liquid is project…it’s from you!
Is there something wrong with having a night to masturbate? I kinda want to do that sometime and I was wondering if there's a way to keep the desire going? Like every time I have one orgasm I'm satisfied but I want to masturbate for a while longer.
There’s nothing wrong with your night bleeding into the morning and taking a personal day from work to keep masturbating.
Hi. Thank you so much for this blog!! I can't talk to anyone else about this and it's hard to find answers on Google lol. I'm a virgin and I use a high power vibrating massager to masterbate. If I do it too much will it like desensitize me??
Nah, girl. It’s possible that your body will start to adjust to the intense vibrations and it will become more difficult for you to orgasm with lesser stimulation, but you won’t totally desensitize yourself. I would recommend turning off your massager and doing a nice hands only masturbation session from time to time, just to bring your body back to the basics. And I’m happy we can help :)
Are there men that exist that don't mind public hair and size 20? Serious question from someone incredibly insecure :(
Indeed! Because of there pervasiveness of media and the images we see everyday of women’s bodies it can start to feel pretty bleak, but certainly there are men capable of free thought who aren’t brainwashed by our scary magazine culture. Good luck finding yours :)
I need help! I can only orgasm when I use my shower head (Vulva stimulation), but when I use it I have to lay on my back and hip thrust. But my legs go numb and hurt! I bought two bullet vibrators last night, but I can't orgasm still. How should i position them to make it feel like a shower head? I can't shower all the time! And roommates are getting suspicious. I put one on my clit (it feels great), but idk what to do on the other one with my vagina. I put it in and it didn't do anything. Help!
That does sound like a trying position. With one bullet on your clit, you can use the other just to massage your labia and the entrance to your vagina. I read once that if you plan on inserting a bullet vibrator, it’s a good idea to put it in a condom because you shouldn’t rely on pulling the cord to remove it, especially over time. Have fun!
I know some play, tug, and twist on their nipples..but anytime I do it they are sooo sore the day after..with just a small of amount of touching them..I'm a bit scared I'll never be able to use them when masturbating because of the effects afterwards
Instead of pulling them, why not just try gently stroking them, or applying a little pressure or just a nice little squeeze. No need to be rough!
Hey I'm female and want to know what oral feels like. Is there anything you can recommend without buying a toy? Like any home inventions etc
Hmm…I can’t think of anything that’s not gross (like a raw steak. Idk, it’s late, that’s where my mind went. Please don’t do that.) But otherwise, I’m not sure! Any ideas! There’s this freaky looking toy, although I know you don’t want to buy anything. Now I’m quite into this, it’s a good little project. Let me think about it.
The first few times my boyfriend fingered me it felt really good, but now whenever he does it I kind of feel like I have period cramps. Why is this? Is he being too rough or something? I mean it feels good for maybe a minute and then it starts to hurt. Idk what's going on. Any ideas?
Perhaps your body just isn’t warmed up enough for such intense fingering. Before he goes goes to town, be sure to spend lots of time on foreplay. And keep communicating with him, if it hurts ask him to stop, don’t think it has to hurt.
Hi! So I've started squirting through g-spot stimulation, but it doesn't happen during orgasm, or even leading up to it really. (I haven't had a vaginal orgasm before, only clitoral) Is this something others have experienced?It does make any subsequent clitoral orgasm, very intense however… So not complaining!
I have read a lot that g-spot ejaculation is not necessary tied into orgasm, so it sounds like you’re right on track! Anyone else experienced a similar pattern?
How can I help my girlfriend start masturbating? She is hesitant to do it even though she has expressed the desire to. She loves when we both touch her vagina at the same time, so I want her to be able to do it whenever she wants, but she doesn't know how to start touching herself without me there to turn her on first. It's almost as if there's a certain level she has to reach before she will start touching herself and she can't reach that level without me there. Thanks!
No offense, but I’m sure she can reach that level without you there. Try not to pressure her too much, because after all, it is about what she wants and not what you want for her! Perhaps just leave this blog open as a tab on her computer and let her browse.
I really want to buy a vibrator but I can't get it shipped or go to a sex toy store, where can I get a cheap and quiet one so my roommate isn't suspicious?
Nowadays, a lot of drugstores (CVS, Walgreens) carry small vibrators next to the condoms and and personal lubricants. Try there! Also if you can’t have things shipped to your house for whatever reason, look into getting a PO box.
for the past 2 years ive masturbated by clit stimulation alone and most of the time it brings me to orgasm. ive been wanting to try penetration lately though, but it scares me. everytime i try to put my finger in my vagina hurts really bad and i cant get it in far at all. ive never been able to wear tampons either because it hurts too bad and they wont fit, even the smallest ones. is there something wrong with my vagina?
Nothing’s wrong! It just takes some time to get used to these things. First things first, go buy some lube! That will definitely help. Or try in the bath first where things are nice and ~wet~
(continued), i've tried fingering myself but there's little to no sensation. i'm starting to think there's something wrong with me. i just want a way to de-stress myself, please help me if you can. thank you!
Remember: half of you orgasm is in your mind! Make sure you’re mentally stimulated as well as physically. Try adding some lube to make penetration, and even rubbing your clit, more pleasurable!
hello, your blog is really helpful and i was wondering if you might have some advice for me. i've never had an orgasm; i've only ever tried to masturbate and it's starting to get frustrating. i tried rubbing my clit, and it felt more like what i imagine a seizure to be like. my legs started jerking around, and it was ok but not? great? and after a while that died down too and eventually i just gave up. i think i rubbed too hard b/c now it just hurts. a vibrator isn't an option for me (continued)
I once submitted an ask to you a while ago and said I used "something else" along with clitoral stimulation that I inserted to help get me off. You wanted to know what it was, I used to use an old make-up brush handle and now use a longer, plastic handle of a (not in use) dry-erase eraser. Is this ok to use? I make sure and clean it every time. I'm not super keen on buying a vibrator only to find its not a great fit. And I would like to get used to sex a bit more 1st as I am now sexually active.
I think if you must use something like that, it would be best to cover it with a condom just to make sure it’s clean and won’t cause you any little scrapes down there.
Hi! I wonderin' if you could help me. I'm looking for a video? It's what appears to be a homemade, low lighting, causal/normal bedroom, the bed is in view I think, etc. And it's of a girl giving (I assume) her girlfriend a lap dance. The one in the chair had long (straight) hair, and a plaid shirt on. I think it was a plain wooden nothing special chair. I used To see it on my dash a lot, but I haven't seen it lately. I know this isn't much to go on, but thanks if you can help :)
Hiya! I'd love it if you could check out my new blog and maybe post this so your followers can too? It's called luvurvulva and it's about female bodies, sex and masturbation - kind of working on ending the stigma! Thanks a lot :-)
is this a cannabis-friendly space? haha i'd like to share with you my story and maybe find if it's common. first time it happened was 2 years ago. i was high and i started to feel aroused in a situation i shouldn't (public)! i didn't move a muscle, i just stayed there, completely stopped, just concentrating in my clitoris. i didnt pressed my thighs or anything like that. i just got really focused in my clitoris and then i got one of the strongest orgasms of my life!! i call that brain-orgasm rs
:) Good to hear! Maybe some of our followers (and we) will try that!
I haven't ever really squirted before but I'm soo curious about it. When I masturbate a lot of the time I will clench my kegel muscles like I'm holding in pee and that makes my orgasms a lot stronger. When I'm trying to squirt should I be doing the opposite? Pushing that muscle like I'm trying to pee? And one question that might be really silly but this is coming out of my uretha, right? The same place I am peeing from?
Yes, push and expel!
The source of the liquid is ~up for debate~ according to Wikipedia.
for /most/ people it isn't. I don't know where you might be where fwb is a common thing or you can just casually ask a friend if they want to fuck without blowing the friendship apart, but it's definitely a special place
Okay. So sorry I’ve offended you on this friends with benefits issue. I guess I’ve watched too many episodes of Friends or Seinfeld or had my own personal experiences and a different life or something like that. Good night!