when u have sex and the guy's penis is maybe 6-7 inches or so would it hit your cervix because I can feel mine with a Finger! What happens if it does? Will it hurt? Will that be as far as he can go in?
Don’t worry — your vagina takes care of you, just like you take care of it. When aroused, your vagina can elongate to up to twice its size! So make sure you and your partner engage in plenty of foreplay so that you and your vagina are super aroused and elongated to accommodate those six or seven inches.
I need help! I bought a vibrator and it feels great when I use it, but I can never climax. I have to get myself off while pillow humping and it isn't very satisfying. Am I doing something wrong? I'm very frustrated.
Try not to be frustrated! That in and of itself can be the problem. (Easier said than done, of course.) Maybe try things the opposite way…pillow hump to get started and then switch to your vibrator to try to finish.
I'm really confused as to if I have ever had an orgasm. I'm a virgin, but discovered pillow humping and grinding to my blankets a while ago, so I do masturbate. But it's never "mind blowing" or "body shaking" at the end. It does feel good, obviously. But I'm not sure if what I feel is an orgasm. What do you think? Thank you for all your help!
It’s hard for me to judge, because you are the only one feeling these things! Movies paint an unrealistic expectation of what orgasms are, unfortunately. And all orgasms are different! Some are big and bold, others are timid and shy. Generally, it’s a build up and release of pressure and some contractions of the vagina muscles along with “waves of pleasure” through the rest of the body. But what does that all really mean?? How can we really describe it?? It’s up for each individual person to define and identify their own orgasms.
So if you feel like you’ve experienced something in that vain, vary the intensity of your masturbating techniques to start adjusting the volume of your orgasms!
So I've been masturbating for just over a year now, and almost every time I do it I get awful leg cramps. I haven't found anything that helps (pillows, different positions, etc.), and I was wondering if you'd have any suggestions?
Short of preemptively wrapping your legs in heat compresses, I’m not sure! Anyone have any ideas?
Okay.. I want to get rid of my public hair, but it seems so complicated to do.. Because I'm considering using a hair removal cream, but then I've read that you can get chemical burns.. And if you shave, you can cut yourself or the hair might start growing in the wrong way.. So I don't know what to use, do you have any advice? What's easiest and best to use?
Of course, you should first ask yourself why you want to remove your pubic hair in the first place! If you feel it’s on your own terms and not because of pressure from any other source (including sex partners) then let’s get started!
Don’t use any cream type thing unless it specifically says it’s for your “bikini area”, or a similar euphemism. Shaving can be time consuming, but it’s the easiest method. Do a Google search for some good tips, and set aside a good chunk of time to do it.
If your super serious about going smooth down there, your best bet would be going to a wax salon. You’ll get the smoothest and longest lasting results, and the money will be worth it.
I just watched a sexy video and my pussy is throbbing and it hurts and feels like it needs to be touched so much why is it like that I can't masturbate it makes me too guilty how can I calm my pussy without getting off??
Help, I think I am too tight. When I masturbate I can barely feel good by inserting a finger in and when I am on my period tampon hurt and I am sure I put it in right. What can I do to make "penetration" feel better. I am so scared that I am to tight that even the smallest dicks won't be able to get in. Please give me some advice??? PS love the blog
Don’t be scared! Time + lube = successful penetration.
I can never orgasm through just penetration, I always have to have clitoral stimulation. This means I can never come when having sex. How can I change this and have a penetrative orgasm?
Yo, slow your roll! That’s not really true at all, because sex is a lot more than just some rando person repeatedly sticking an appendage in you until they cum! Sex is an experience, and your clit has a ticket to the show, so make sure it gets its money’s worth! (That is a confusing metaphor and I’m not implying anyone involved in your sexual scenario is a prostitute. But I’m not thinking of another one.) Either you or your partner can touch your clit during penetration, or penetration doesn’t even have to happen at all. Cum the way you can, and insist upon it.
me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 3 months and he fingered me and ate me out the other day and in the pit of my stomach I felt this like balloon of pleasure getting bigger and bigger and all of a sudden the balloon popped and I felt like I had to pee and scream at the top of my lungs and I'm not sure if that was an vaginal orgasm or not helllllppp
An orgasm is a lot of the building up and release of pressure, so that could certainly be what your balloon was! I would suggest masturbating (duh) so you can re-capture and examine that feeling further!
Hey, I am a 14 year old female, (currently single, not expecting to loose my v for at least 2 more years, and I've only ever kissed one guy) Anyways, I have a high sex drive I guess and I masturbate a lot (yeah, and a lot of my friends think I'm completely innocent, even though they have never had boyfriends) but I can NEVER climax, and I try fingering and pillows... I can't really get a vibrator bc I wouldn't ask my parents or get it online, so any advice on methods or things I can use? Thanks!
I’ve only ever kissed before…
But I think a lot of people who have trouble climaxing just need to stop putting so much pressure on themselves! Stress does not compliment pleasure, so although it can be hard, just relax and enjoy! Find something that turns you on, try all different “techniques”, and remember: practice makes perfect!
Okay so when i masturbate i do a lot of clit stimulation with water or vibrations (fingering doesn't do much for me it doesn't feel bad just not that good) but every time i feel close i get too sensitive and if i keep going it feels uncomfortable and a little painful which turns me off but if i try and do less i lose the feeling completely. I am so beyond frustrated do you have any suggestions?
Direct clit stimulation can just be too much for people! Aim for the area right above or around your clit! You can do this the whole time, or switch to that when it starts to get uncomfortable.
So I'm 21 years old and I have the hardest time making myself orgasm. This has been a huge problem lately because my boyfriend has been away for weeks and I am unable to pleasure myself. It's frustrating because he's always telling me that he just masturbated to pictures of me, but I have videos and pictures of him as well and I can't seem to get myself to climax. Any tips for successful female masturbation resulting in orgasm?
Relax and don’t put too much pressure on yourself! Make you’re super turned on before you start touching yourself, and try new techniques or a vibrator!
“Sex is so weird. Like hey, I love you let me stick my hard extra limb into your tiny hole and then slam it into you repeatedly because I love you.” –Blake Henderson.
Let’s face it. Sex is awkward. It’s not all silky sheets and romantic music like in the movies. At Intercourse Interrupted (http://is-it-in-yet.tumblr.com) we want to show that it’s okay to laugh, and blush, and cringe, and enjoy all the sounds, quirks, and interruptions that make being sexy human beings so great! And if we make you laugh along the way, then that’s even better.
So come on, share your stories! If you show me yours, I’ll show you mine.
Hello! I really appreciate what you're doing on the blog; it's like, the only helpful female masturbation blog out here. Anyway, when I masturbate, I usually use a pencil when I want something inside me other than a dildo or a vibrator (I don't have one, but I'm planning on buying one when I'm 16) is using a pencil bad for my health? I use the stump end.
I definitely don’t think a pencil would be a good thing to put inside of you…even if it is the ‘stump end’. Something thicker, like the end of a hairbrush, may work better!
Squeeze my legs together-works every time. Using my fingers to stimulate my clitoris made me orgasm so hard; the twitching legs, bit my tongue to stifle the gasps. Showerhead--I haven't gotten the chance to orgasm, but the feeling is very intense and very lovely. Fingering has yet to come to me properly, but I haven't stopped trying. :)
So I'm fairly happy with masturbating with a certain vibrator or rubbing my clit, but I've lately felt that I need to penetrate myself because I'm ace and have no desire to do it with other people. But no matter how hard I try, no matter how aroused or lubed-up I am, I can't get it in at all.
OK, so I identify as straight but I feel like I'm open to dating girls and guys and becoming physical with them once I have a steady relationship,I also get off much better to girls than guys, I'm really confused what this means? For me, a relationship with someone is about their personality and then their downstairs department.. so I guess I wouldn't be be fussed if they were a guy or a girl or in between... Please help! Or at least tell me I'm not alone! Thanks :)
Well you’re def not alone! One quick spin around Tumblr should tell you that.
Just go with the flow and see who you click with. If a friendship turns into more embrace it, and worry about labels later, or when it feels right. Just be honest with the people you’re intimate with!
wow this blog before i found it i was stuck on using a vibrator because my fingers just weren't doing it for me but then i just decided to use my fingers again after reading this blog and omg it was soo good the first time i went for like 3hours and it wast weirdly numb after like with vibrators idk i just wanted to thank whoever runs this blog :)
It takes me like 20 minutes to cum with a vibrator and about an hour to cum if I just use my fingers-is there any way I can quicken it? I'm worried that in the future I'll have sex and won't be able to cum because it takes me so long to cum by myself.
Make sure you’re in a ~turned on~ mood, because your state of mind can def influence how quickly you cum! (Although remember - you needn’t be in a rush ever!)
in responce to the anon with the shower head - i've discovered that spraying warm (not too hot, but warm) water on my anus results in a very strong wave of pleasure. not an orgasm, but still quite enjoyable. i can get about five 'waves' or so in a row before it stops feeling good
Hi! I have been masturbating for a while now and have only been able to have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. I've tried fingering myself and also inserting things into my vagina, but I don't feel pleasure or pain from it. It mostly feels like nothing, and I'm worried that when I eventually have sex it will be the same way. Any advice?
Try rubbing your clit while you continue fingering yourself! Personally I was pretty “take it or leave it” about penetration until it was during sex, so who knows!
Masturbating unfortunately, ignorantly, has terrible taboo but it's so fun. So be it. I think that it's soooo awesome. I know myself, and I know what I like. It makes me more secure in what I could be confused about. It's relaxing, it's great. Who needs the effort when you can use things that won't try to either, hurt your feelings/nag you at times. Obviously there are positives with having someone but know yourself. Amen? Ya I'm confident in myself to know that though you won't disagree still(;
when i cum, there's like a cool sensation around my shoulders (thank god bc of the summer heat) is that an orgasm? idk it doesn't feel~ like the hype. (btw thanks, i'll enjoy the rest of my ~career~ >//< you guys are really nice)
That does sound nice for these summer nights! An orgasm if probably most concentrated in the contractions of the vaginal muscles (sounds v sexy, right?) but it is definitely a full body experience that can take it’s shape in may ways! The deeper go you, the more you’ll discover!
thinking about buying a vibrator, this is my first time and i don't have a lot of cash- is there anything i should be wary of/look out for?
Good question! Some cheaper sex toys unfortunately have a bad material called phthalates in them. Do some research about what toys are truly phthalate-free, or if you do buy a cheaper model, you can always cover it with a condom before using it!
I masturbate whilst wearing tight jeans, grinding against my hand and its the only way i can get off without using a toy. Sometimes its really awkward when a guy tells me to touch myself with my hands because i dont get off. What can i do about it?
Hi um okay so I recently got a little vibrator for my clit and I /love/ it like I enjoy the build up to orgasm then.... I have the most disappointing orgasms I've ever experienced? Any tips on how to make them more powerful?
Try using your vibrator until you’re just about to cum…then take it away. Then wait thirty sections and start again…but take the vibrator away right before you cum. Repeat a couple times and that should start to build up the strength of your orgasm when you finally do cum!
Every time I try to masturbate, after a minute or two it gets so extreme that I have to stop because I feel like I can't physically continue and my body feels all numb. Is this normal? I'm a virgin btw.
Instead of focusing directly on your clit, try to stimulate the skin around it! There are lots and lots and lots of nerve endings down there, and too much direct stimulation can just be too much for some people!
Hi, I have a question for you! I'm a girl and what if I'm with a boy and he fingers me and yay delicious, but I want to jack him off as well, do I wait for him to finish? Or do we do it at the same time? Thanks anyway, bye!
Yay, delicious! I think you can do whatever you feel like in the moment! Sometimes sex is more about taking turns, but it doesn’t have to be, it can be a shared experience for both of you in that moment. So if you want to go ahead and get some action is as well, and he other stops or keeps going, then have fun with that! Or if you want to properly get off before you take you turn on him, then that’s delicious too! The only rule is: there ain’t no rules.
I like the lack of punctuation and context here. Is this a question? Is it asking, “Do you have dick pics?” or perhaps “Do you want dick pics?” (The answer to both is No.) Or is it merely a statement, just a headline to become a topic of discussion. “Dick pics — your opinions please.” Cryptic.
I don't shave my private part very often, but when I do shave it, it seems to get veerrryy dry for a few days until the hair is growing back again. Is that normal? Is there anything I can do to avoid that? I'm a Virgin and I've had close calls where a boy was going to touch me down there but I was afraid because of how dry it is.
Not sure if you’re referring to the skin itself or to your vagina. If it’s your vagina, that may be a question the next time you’re at the doctor, because I’m not really sure what the correlation between public hair and natural lubrication is.
I'm 16 and i always masturbate by using my jet shower head but when I finger myself I don't feel as much pleasure, I want to try a sex toy, but don't want to purchase one. Do you know anyway to make a homemade one? Also I'm scared that a normal dildo will be to big for me seeing as I am a virgin
There are lots of homemade sex toy recipes you can find online, but I’m of the feeling that anything you’re going to stick inside your body should be designed for that purpose. Check out online retailers with discreet shipping, or even the shelves of your local drug store!