Anonymous asked: This is probably a stupid question. I'm a straight girl (99% sure), but I think I may be attracted to other androgynous girls. Does that make me bi? Even if they look like guys?
Not necessarily! Only you can label your sexuality (if you wanna) but a lot of people have small “exceptions” to their identities — sounds like this is yours.
Anonymous asked: What do you do when you can't get turned on? I have some mental health issues that are interfering with my ability to get aroused. I've tried everything from visual stimulation to just shoving my hand down there and rubbing, but it's like my sex drive is just gone (apart from the fact that I still really want to masturbate). Would you have any tips?
It’s okay to remove masturbation from arousal! Maybe try just having a nice home-spa night. Light some candles, drink some wine, take a long bath. Then get some lube and let your fingers do their thing.
Anonymous asked: Okay. A few questions. Is it weird or bad that I can masturbate dry? When I get the slightest bit horny, I can hump my blankets and orgasm with in a minute and a half... Also is there a way that I can "have sex with myself"? I just get off so quickly that I can't do what those girls in homemade videos do, like touching and squirming and making it last! I wish I could, help please!
That’s not weird!
And since blanket humping is your go-to, maybe try something else for a while. Watch some porn and don’t just start masturbating when you’re the “slightest bit horny”, but allow your feelings to build up. And then touch yourself lightly and then build on that. It will be hard at first, but worth it!
Anonymous asked: I don't get an orgasm through penetration of any sorts, and when I try it, I pee. It isn't just squirting, I checked. But I'm worried because my boyfriend and I are getting extremely close and I don't want to weird him out or get his bedsheets disgusting. Is there anything I can do?
Just tell him how it is and then lay down some towels! If he really likes you, he won’t care.
Anonymous asked: Whenever i want to masturbate and actually start, I get disinterested halfway through and stop. I know there's nothing wrong with that... Is there anything you suggest? -M
Maybe try watching porn or reading erotica so that you have something else to focus on and keep you aroused.
Anonymous asked: I think I have to quit masturbation cold turkey.. i masturbated 2-4 times everyday for the past couple months.
Anonymous asked: is there a way to touch my self without getting horny? my vagina is so sensitive because i masturbated a lot but now im not sure if i should anymore because my mom says it's not right for ladies . i just want to know if there is a way to make myself wet but not in a aroused way just like so i can feel my vagina and explore because i like to touch myself but i might have to give up masturbation orgasms until im married
You can use lube to add moisture down there, but I would also ask you to reconsider your stance on giving up masturbation! Is it really worth it?
Anonymous asked: Hello! First and foremost thanks for the great blog, it's very helpful for a person who grew up with the belief that sex was just a painful necessity. I have looked though your anatomy tag, but if I compare it to my body it feels like I don't have an hymen, but a giant wall of flesh. I can't even see the opening. My doc says everything's normal, but I can't enjoy penetration and I've never felt an orgasm (not even via clitoral stimulation)...
You do have an opening in your hymen or else menstrual fluids couldn’t exit your body! I guess the only advice I can dispense in this manner is to say keep looking and keep feeling around, because it’s there. Perhaps try making an appointment with specifically a gynecologist to talk your questions through with.
Anonymous asked: I feel so embarrassed about this but last night I decided to try squirting. I have squirted before but only little amount of squirt came our off me. Last night I tried it with handle of my brush.. I squited so much that I had an effing puddle in my bed. I had a towel underneath me but it didn't help. I had 3 orgasms but I'm so embarrassed of it and now i'm afraid that if i'm going to have sex someday i'll squirt like i did last night and make a fool out of myself.
Well, it sounds like you were consciously trying to make yourself squirt and you clearly achieved it! So, if you’re having sex and you don’t want to squirt you’ll know what to avoid!
Anonymous asked: Have you gotten my message from a could weeks ago, I know you are busy!!
You’re gonna have to be a little more specific, baby.