Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Anonymous said: I'm thinking about buying a vibrator. I'm buying from CVS. I masturbate A LOT. I just want to know if I should buy a vibrator that actually penetrates or just a massager. Btw I'm a virgin.

I would say get one that does both, that way you have the option for penetration, but you can just use it as an external vibrator if you decide you don’t like it!

After being on Tumbler for four years, I am still Tumblr-illiterate and I need your surely much more tech-savvy help!!

When someone sends us a submission and asks for it to be posted anonymously…how do you make it anonymous??? On the preview page it does not show the submitters username at all. It is not until I think it looks all clear and post it, that I see on the blog at the top of the post that it says “blahblahblah submitted to fuckyeahfemalemasturbation”. Where is the option to erase that information?? Or do I just have to totally copy and paste the info/picture and draft my own post from the blog? Surely there is a Tumblr-y way to take care of that stuff. I like receiving and posting submissions, and I want to protect people who want to be anonymous…but do not know how. 

I will help you masturbate if you help me Tumbl. Thanks, gang!

Saturday, September 20, 2014


I’m trying hard to live by Cat Principles.

1. I am glorious above all things
2. Eat when hungry, sleep when sleepy, play when bored
3. Affection is given and received on my terms and only mine
4. Show displeasure clearly.
5. NO
6. Demand the things you want. If they aren’t given, demand them again, but louder this time.
7. If you are touched when you don’t want to be, say so. If they continue to touch you, make them bleed.

Friday, September 19, 2014

ronniecanuck said: Lovely! Can you recommend any solid feminist porn blogs??? Xoxoxox


Yes. Yes I can.
On tumblr? I rep hard for deviantfemme, maybe the first tumblr I ever loved.
Obvious shout out for my own, hottiesinanimalears.tumblr.com

So, what’s our working definition of feminism?
I personally love reading arabelleraphael's tumblr. She answers fan questions but doesn't take shit. She also posts images and I think clips sometimes too. She has shot mainstream and alt stuff, and she will encourage you to pay for your porn. She will include links to her stuff, and through her I found lots of other performers I like.

I started looking at pics of Arabelle after DeviantFemme posted them, and it sort of opens up a whole world. crashpadseries is the best porn site I know. You can follow their tumblr for some images, and you can buy a membership for their website. I love this website because after they shoot the porn they do these interviews with the people. They have a great accessibility policy where if you transcribe the interviews you can get access to the site. Follow their twitter for notes when they are looking for transcribers. Or just buy a membership!

Looking at Crashpad I discovered lots of pornstars/people I would not have heard about otherwise. Then I usually follow them on Twitter and see links to their other work. Peep jizlee's various internet venues. Jiz is also good for bigging up others. Basically if you find one feminist porn performer you like and they do group scenes or duo scenes you will kind of fall down this rabbit hole if you want to follow the links to their scene partners, and their partners, and whatever you find hot.
I enjoy @msemmaclaire, aka @TheEmmaClaire on Twitter
Honestly I think most of the porn I watch I found through performers I heard of on Crashpad. I guess I go more by person than by website. Crashpad is not an aggregate site - it creates its own content. Shine Louise Houston shoots it, under conditions that I understand to be pretty good. (Look into Pink & White Productions for more)

I enjoy knowing a tiny bit about the people in the porn I watch because it gives me some confidence in the way it’s made. It’s not a sure thing, but it’s something.
I am really down with the ethics of Crashpad, and they feature hot and hairy and fat bodies doing all kinds of different things, and they include trans women in lesbian scenes, which is important to me.

What are our favourite porn blogs, everyone?
ronniecanuck's question is a good one!!! Reblog this and add your own if you want. I would love to learn of more.

Remember to support the artists making this work and being so kind to give us ideas, arousal & orgasm.



Britney promoting her new lingerie line.



Britney promoting her new lingerie line.

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Anonymous said: Does using tampons break your hymen?


Hymens (or vaginal coronas) don’t break as such. They are a flexible membrane which will generally move out of the way. With repeated penetration as well as normal physical activity, the vaginal corona may “erode”, leaving the appearance anywhere from lumpy and bumpy, with smooth edges, or with a ragged look. Using tampons won’t break your hymen, but it may, through penetration, contribute to the erosion I mentioned.

This is my hymen, having had lots of sex, much more penetrative masturbation, and using tampons every month.


You can see the wide variety in appearance of hymens/vaginal coronas in this post here - What Hymens Look Like.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Anonymous said: Why is the hymen myth so damaging? Feminists are so dramatic.


Maybe because women used to literally cut themselves to get blood on the sheets because bloody sheets from the “broken hymen” were the only way to “prove” that the marriage had been consummated and that the woman was a “virgin” beforehand. Maybe because these women had to literally cut themselves to avoid facing barbaric consequences of not being a “virgin” at marriage.

Maybe because people born with vaginas are taught this bullshit myth with the lesson that they lose something when they have PIV sex for the first time, while people born with penises are taught no such thing.

Maybe you’re a major asshat with no sympathy.