Anonymous asked: hi, i think i may be asexual but i enjoy masturbation. Does this make me not asexual?
You can be asexual but still engage in masturbation and find pleasure in touching yourself. I’ve heard this website is a great resource for people that identify as asexual!
Anonymous asked: Are there bad things about masturbation? Haha
I can’t think of any!
Anonymous asked: Name 4 weird/bad masturbation habits and 4 bad things about masturbation.
Anonymous asked: I'm not sure if here but where can I go to get help for feeling guilty about masturbation? .
There’s no reason to feel guilty! There’s also no reason to deny your body and sexuality what it wants.
Anonymous asked: Uhh I masturbated six times today, aren't I addicted and need to stop?
Listen, if you’re conducting your life normally but masturbating a lot, no prob.
If you failed a pop quiz because you didn’t do the reading because you were masturbating, you need to work on your time management skills.
If you’ve missed a week work, your dog died because you haven’t been feeding it, and you can’t remember the last time you went outside because were masturbating…then maybe you’re addicted to masturbating and need to stop.
Anonymous asked: I masturbated so long in the shower today that I ran out of hot water. It was worth it.
I hope no one was hoping to get in the shower after you! :)
Anonymous asked: I'm a female of 15 years old, and physically mature. I'm asexual, but I've read that despite one's lack of sexuality, masturbation can still feel nice. It doesn't for me though? It has the same feeling as if I were to put my fingers in my mouth. I don't understand? And I've gotten suggestions just to experiment, but I've done that, too?
Some people like chocolate, some people don’t. Some people like to masturbate, some people don’t. If you tried it and it didn’t do anything for you, perhaps that is that. But if you’re interested in continuing to experiment, remember that there’s more to masturbating than just sticking your hand down your pants.
If the interest in masturbating is for you motivated by self-care rather than sexual gratification, why not start with a nice bath, then reading a book or watching a movie you enjoy, then laying on your bed and thinking nice thoughts and letting your hands wander your body until they make their way ~down there~.
Anonymous asked: Is this normal or weird? I'm scared of looking at my vulva. There's nothing wrong with it though. My vulva is clean but I don't know what makes me scared. There's a bit hair down there but I'm not scared of that. I tried looking at my vulva with a mirror but I backed out. What is wrong with me?
Unfortunately, I’d say that this is more normal than weird. This question makes me sad, but I also understand where this person is coming from, because I remember feeling my heart race and my tummy turn before I looked at my vulva for the first time.
More than just being a piece of our body on the same level as an arm or an ear, our vulvas represent a whole side of ourselves that we’re taught to be frightened and ashamed of: our sexuality.
It takes a lot of courage to own our sexuality; and by that, I mean to possess the self-knowledge about our sexual orientation, preferences, and desires, and also, the power to claim sexual pleasure independently and proudly.
So, I think it’s normal to be nervous of looking at your vulva. But it will bring you a lot of power, joy, and comfort.
Anonymous asked: i have tried to find my gspot, with my fingers and toys and objects, etc. NOTHING WORKS. im convinced i don't have one. penetration is painful and uncomfortable and not at all erotic. helpp?!
Maybe to add pleasure to penetration, try adding some lube! Make sure you’re in the right mood, take some time, don’t rush. Light a candle. Take a bath.
Anonymous asked: I'm 16 and I masturbate often by manual stim - about once every 1-2 days. The thing about it is that I've always read that female orgasms involve sweating, leg shaking, increased heartbeat and moaning/screaming, but when I do it, none of that ever happens. I have a pretty strong, nice feeling but it's never strong enough to make me moan and it's not the mind-blowing fireworks I want. Am I doing it wrong?
You’re not doing it wrong! Everybody is different, every body is different, ya know? You read and see women depicted orgasming like that because, well, it would make for a boring ~climax~ in a book for a movie for her to just smile and say, “That was nice!” before rolling over and going to sleep.
So if you don’t feel naturally inclined to thrash around and scream, that’s just the way you are! And, unsurprisingly, that’s probably the way we all are. If you’re looking to increase the strength of your orgasms, forgetting about the reactions to them, try a new technique, new porn, or a new toy!