Female Masturbation: A Manifesta
When my girlfriends and I get together, I’ve always heard their techniques for female masturbation, what they liked best, best methods to “flick their beans” if you will. I always chimed in with, “I’ve never felt the urge to masturbate. What are you supposed to think about? I don’t have the imagination for it.” until I decided to feel for myself.
Upon getting to know what worked for me, I realized the only focus is on your sensations. That it isn’t about thinking about Tom Hardy riding me on my bed, or my last sexual escapade that gets me off. I’m focused on the sensations, where I hit my most pleasure. My whole instinct is to feel myself and keep trying this and trying that, to make myself orgasm. There doesn’t have to be an inspiration. Just pure carnal desire to feel myself and get myself tingling. I realized finally, that masturbation was an act of self love and pleasure. That even though you may not have a main squeeze, you still have to make yourself hot and you must take matters into your own hands. I grew to love myself and most importantly, my body.
Dude, I didn’t even know what felt good during sex. If I’d have known after a few tries with myself, I’d have had more pleasurable experiences in my sex-capades for myself and my lover. I didn’t even know what got me jazzed!
From an early age, it has always just been supposed human nature for men to masturbate, and for them to get off. For men it seems like there wasn’t always a buxom blonde fantasy at the end of that ejaculation. That it was just an act they would do because “boys will be boys” and they had to rub one out. I kinda realized it’s unfair for us ladies. It’s taboo, our womanhood is stigmatized. While there are fifty National Lampoon references for men to jerk off, and American Pie, where Jason Biggs has sex with a pie to bring himself some pleasure. For women, we have Sex and the City and Girls (to name a couple) that show masturbation in a positive light. We find it so shocking that the source of Samantha Jones’ glow is from an afternoon of some good old clitoral stimulation. We gotta stop this, y’all.
I’m a 23 year old woman!
Before I became comfortable with what I was doing, finally thinking about it in a more united light, I felt hella guilty. Like I didn’t deserve it, or I was an oddball for getting off the way that I do. Even reminding myself that some of my closest girlfriends did the same thing, I still felt something was off about some necessary self loving. Anyway, now that’s changed, thanks to tumblr blogs and endless google searches asking, “is the fact that knowing other women like me do it kinda weird?” Truth is, it’s not. That’s why I’m writing this post for you guys today. I want y’all to not feel weird, or hold back from giving yourself a big O because you might feel like a hoe or “sex freak” or what have you.
I’m not asking you to shout it at the rooftops or add it to your list of interests on facebook, or dedicate your whole blog to your self loving sessions. Unless if that’s what you want to do, more power to you. Just don’t feel like you’re the oddball out, or a loser or what you’re doing is wrong. DIY for the win, you riot grrrl!
Beautifully stated by rooneymaruders! Thank you so much for the submission!!
when you masturbate for so long that your fingers get pruny <3